All children are susceptible to burn-out. The academic and social pressures on young people to perform academically, to look a certain way and to conform to peer expectations can be overwhelming.
For children with SEND this is often magnified by their particular condition. They might be masking (disguising) their special need before their class as they try to keep up in lessons, or feel completely overwhelmed by the noise and bustle of the school environment.
Children with a disability might have the frustration of trying to negotiate school corridors and classrooms using a wheelchair or sticks.
How might burn-out present in children with SEND?
There are a number of tell-tale signs that your SEND child or pupil is feeling burned-out:
- They head straight to bed when they come home from school. A child who is burned-out may just want to sleep and will skip their evening meal
- They show a sudden regression in academic performance. This might include refusing to go to school or to complete homework, or using delaying tactics
- Increased irritability and emotional withdrawal. They will be overwhelmed by even the smallest task
- Increased anxiety, frustration or apathy towards activities they used to enjoy, such as sports or other hobbies
- Increased self-doubt and negative talk about themselves
- Physical symptoms, which can include stomach aches and head aches.
What you can do help:
- Reduce the child’s school workload and expectations to a more manageable level. Discuss with the school/parents how this might be done so they are not disadvantaged in assessments and reward schemes as a result
- Give them time to rest and get enough sleep. Establish a good sleep regime and encourage them to eat healthily
- Allow them time off from their activities. It’s not the end of the world is they miss a training session
- Encourage them to do things they enjoy, such as exercise or hobbies that help them to relax
- Help the child to identify and express their feelings. This might include working in tandem with the school to find solutions and by speaking openly and honestly about emotions
Looking after yourself as a parent
Parenting a SEND child can feel isolating, overwhelming and, often, frustrating. Remember you are not alone and there will be families nearby experiencing the same feeling and emotions.
- Find ways of connecting with other parents of children with SEND for emotional support and advice. This might be through your children’s school or local groups of home educators
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Can friends, family, or professionals reduce your workload?
- Find time for yourself to rest and recharge by doing something you enjoy or just going for a short walk
- If your child has a chronic condition you might be eligible for respite services for a much-needed break
- Consider professional help: speaking to a mental health specialist can help deal with feelings of anxiety and despair.
